Sorry it’s taken me so long to post an update, things have just been really crazy.
Bear with me if this is a little rambling & long & may not make a lot of sense. I am still on some heavy duty pain meds. 😉
We are home and doing well. I am really sore & tired still, but I’m starting to gradually feel better. I’m definitely past the worst and I think as long as I don’t overdo it, I’ll be just fine.
Joshua is such a little doll. He is so precious & adorable & just completely 110% worth all that pain I dealt with for the past couple months. I look at him and I’m just in awe that he was inside of me. How on earth did he fit?! I mean I know I was huge, but he is a big boy!
Wow. A true miracle. What a gift. Thank You Jesus!
So… some more details. =)
We arrived at the hospital at 7:30 am on June 16th for my scheduled c-section.
Our last photo together before we became outnumbered by children!:
The nurses asked me all those million questions they always do, put my IV in, and at 9:40 wheeled me back to the OR. The anesthesiologist put in my spinal and he did a great job – I hardly felt it. It started working right away and they began the surgery. Nate was called in, looking very cute in his scrubs (heehee) and then my blood pressure dropped and I started feeling really bad. I told the anesthesiologist & he gave me some meds to bring my BP back up, but it took a few minutes. I felt so awful – just really nauseous & sick & it felt hard to breathe. Finally the meds worked and I began to feel better. It’s normal for that to happen, it’s a side effect of the spinal. That was the worst part and I felt ok for the rest of the surgery.
About 10-15 minutes after they began, they started pulling Joshua out. My doctor said everything looked amazing for this being my 3rd section. There was very little scar tissue.
He surprised even me with how big he was – I had been predicting he would weigh 10 lb 2 oz. No wonder I was so sore those last few weeks!
Joshua’s Apgar scores were 8 and 9. He took a minute to start crying and to pink up so that’s why his first number was one less. He had this cute little cry that wasn’t weak, but wasn’t really loud either. The NICU practitioner checked him over (standard procedure for all c-section babies) and said he was very healthy. Everything looked great. They tried to get his footprints for my baby book, but Joshua wasn’t having it. He did not want to cooperate and he got very angry. It was kind of funny. So it took a couple extra minutes to get that done.
The entire c-section took about 40-45 minutes from start to finish. It took them about 30 minutes to sew me up after Joshua was born. My doctor did a great job carefully sewing and making sure things were tight, as this was my 3rd c-section. She finished with dissolvable stitches, so I don’t even have to deal with icky staples. (Have I mentioned I love my doctor?)
They gave me the DDAVP recommended by my hematologist to help encourage my body to produce more clotting agents in my blood. It worked because my doctor said I did not have any excessive bleeding. I guess I did have a little extra bleeding than a normal singleton birth, but because Joshua was so large, I overheard them saying I was more like a twin mommy in terms of how large my uterus had to get and then as a result, a little extra blood loss. So in those terms, there was nothing excessive. I was/am a little anemic, but nothing too concerning. I just have to take extra iron and be a little extra careful to rest even more and stay off my feet extra so as not to overdo it. Also that would explain why I felt more tired after this surgery than my last c-section.
After my surgery, we went back to the recovery room, which was actually just a regular Labor & Delivery room at my hospital. They examined Joshua again and checked his blood sugar. Some babies, particularly big babies, are at risk for blood sugar issues. Joshua’s blood sugar was perfect, so no worries there. Thank You, Lord! Then they wrapped him up again and gave him to me. I would post those pictures, but my face swelled up so much from all the fluids that – well I don’t want to share those! lol. But here is one of my cutie from when I was holding him for the first time – he is sucking his fingers here, just like his big sister Emily does!:
After a couple hours, they gave him his first bath.
They also gave him the vitamin K shot, which I was a little nervous about, but he didn’t even flinch. They gave him that sucrose sugar syrup to drink first and he was so into licking his lips that the shot didn’t bother him at all.
After all that, I was able to hold him again:
The maternity ward was really full this week, so it took them 4 hours to get a room ready for us to move into. We were finally moved down and settled into our room.
Nate’s mom was watching Nathan & Emily and she brought them to the hospital to visit for a couple hours that afternoon. Nathan came running into the room and said “Where’s my brother?! I want to see him!” It was so sweet.
Here is Nathan getting to hold his little brother for the first time:
Emily loved Joshua too. She kept saying “Baby cute!” and then “Look at his fingers! Ooooh!” It was adorable. Here she is holding him with Grandma’s help:
And here’s Grandma and her newest grandson:
After that, everything went pretty routinely.
I wasn’t thrilled with the nursing care I received this time. It felt like I had to constantly explain everything to the nurses. One nurse would say you can have this med at this time and the next nurse would say “Oh no, they want you to wait until this time.” I kept having to repeat things like yes, this is my 3rd c-section (why don’t you just read my chart, darn it?!)
And one nurse annoyed the crap out of me on the 2nd day. I’m generally pretty patient and I’ll put up with a lot, but this one took the cake. I was exhausted and ready to take a nap and she came in with another nurse to take my vitals for the umteenth time. Ok, that I can deal with. But then she felt the need to explain to me in great detail all about post partum care and newborn care for something like 20+ minutes. She went on and on and on. I just sat there blurry-eyed, blinking at her in disbelief. I’m a 3rd time mom, are you kidding me?! Leave me alone and let me SLEEP! Even Nate was annoyed with her.
I had a rough time with pain management throughout my hospital stay. The nurses never gave me my meds unless I requested them and I was so sleep deprived/woozy/in pain, etc. that it was hard for me to keep track of how often I had them. So I often ended up in a lot of pain. Even after I requested for the nurses to bring me my meds every 4 hours as recommended, they still didn’t. It wasn’t that they didn’t want me to have pain meds – they were perfectly willing to bring it to me if I asked, but they just never did it on schedule like they’ve done with my past c-sections. I guess they were trying to do PPR (Per Patient Request) but honestly that’s pretty ridiculous to expect a mom who just had major surgery and gave birth who is pretty exhausted, in pain, and just not thinking straight to remember to ask for pain medications every 4 hours. Everyone who has had a c-section knows that it’s important to stay on top of pain. Take your meds as recommended on schedule, or else it’s harder to get control of it. Everyone knows that. Except for the nurses at my hospital apparently. Anyways, it was very frustrating.
We also had to deal with the on-call hospital pediatrician, as our family doctor doesn’t have privileges at our hospital. He was an arrogant prick. He questioned everything from “Why didn’t you get the eye ointment?” (my response: “Because it wasn’t necessary” to why we weren’t we getting the Hep B vaccine at the hospital and then when were we going to get it to (we’re NOT!) and then (when I mentioned that we were thinking of going home on Thursday) “But c-section moms are supposed to stay for 3 nights. Why would you want to go home early. I’m not sure about that.”
Um, newsflash, you idiot, it’s not up to you. It’s up to me and MY OB doctors. And guess what? They’re fine with it. So lay off and mind your own business. You are NOT my baby’s doctor, you are just doing a simple checkup to make sure he’s healthy for NOW. So lay off!
Grr.. HE was really annoying. Again, even Nate did not like him.
I can’t wait to see our amazing family doctor on Tuesday for Joshua’s checkup!
Joshua has only lost a little weight. At his last nightly weigh-in at the hospital on Wednesday night, he was down to 10 lb 3 oz. He lost a whole 4 oz. lol. Awww, my big chunky boy.
The funny thing is that as big as he is, he doesn’t seem any bigger than Nathan & Emily were. In fact, they both had this cute roll of fat on the back of their neck that Joshua doesn’t have. So I find myself wondering where he’s putting all that weight. But I think he’s just really solid. He’s strong too – he has pretty good neck control already. Even the nurse commented on it.
We also had an issue with getting Joshua circumcised. At the moment, he is not.
Basically, long story short, because I have the bleeding disorder -Von Willebrands – mild that it is, the OB couldn’t just go ahead and do the circumcision without the OK from the pediatrician. And the arrogant prick of a pediatrician refused to ok it unless we had Joshua fully tested for Von Willebrands. The testing for Von Willebrands required 3 large vials of blood. There was no way we were going to consent to that for our precious little newborn. Apparently the pediatric hematologist said that if they had done the C the day he was born, Joshua would have been fine even if he did have VW, something to do with a newborn having extra clotting factors the day they were born due to the stress from birth or something. But of course no one could communicate that until it was too late. And I don’t think I would have wanted them to do it the day he was born anyways. Originally, we had been told that all they would do is just a simple “bleeding time test.” The OB, our family doctor, and someone from the hospital told me that. But we were told they don’t do “bleeding time tests” on babies anymore. Again, lack of communication. *sigh*
So…. we have to talk to our family doctor about it and see what she says. We’ll find out Tuesday. Worse comes to worse, we just won’t get Joshua circumcised. We want it done, but not so much that we’ll subject our baby to huge blood draws or – as the Ped H. recommended – that we wait until he was 3 months, get his blood tested, but then he would have to be put under for the procedure. Um, NO Thank you! Goodness!
We were discharged on Thursday afternoon, after 2 nights. I couldn’t wait to get home. That hospital bed was unbelievably uncomfortable – I would wake up so stiff and sore after only a couple hours of sleep that I would be in tears.
The last couple nights have been rough. Joshua seems to have his nights/days mixed up and he’s awake a lot at night – and wanting to eat a lot too. But that’s to be expected of a newborn and we are coping, although Nate & I are both pretty tired. But again that’s normal.
Joshua sleeps better if one of us holds him. He’ll only sleep for an hour at a time, sometimes less, if we swaddle him and put him in the bassinet. But if we hold him, he’ll sleep for 3 hours. Of course then it’s harder for us to sleep, but a little less quality sleep is better than no sleep!
I am not nursing and my milk started coming in on Thursday afternoon. Ouch. Yesterday was pretty brutal. But today, I think it’s starting to dry up, so I’m feeling a little better. I’ve been using lots of cabbage leaves and cold compresses and that is definitely helping. Hopefully I’m past the worst of it.
I’m glad I’m not nursing as my little one has a VERY strong sucking reflux and I know I would be very sore and raw if I were. As it is, he’s eating a lot already. He’s already up to 3-4 oz at a feeding.
Joshua is doing well. He is really sweet & content. He doesn’t cry unless he’s hungry or being changed. And watch out when he’s hungry! He gets so desperate, he just loses it. He is a little jaundiced, but nothing too concerning and it is already starting to go away. And it’s so funny to see him sleep so peacefully while Nathan & Emily run around and yell and make a ton of noise. He doesn’t even flinch! We can tell he’s used to it.
Nate’s mom left yesterday and we all miss her. She was so sweet & wonderful & just such a blessing to us. I wish she could have stayed longer, but I am so thankful for the time we had with her. Love you, Mom!
Nathan & Emily are doing well. Nathan is thrilled to have a little brother and he is so cute with Joshua. Emily is doing really well too. I haven’t really noticed any jealousy & she loves to give Joshua a pacifier. She’s already my little helper. It is hard because she wants to sit on me all the time and I really can’t do that yet with my incision. But aside from that, we haven’t really had any issues.
As for me, I am still sore, but I’m starting to feel a little better each day.
I just have to say that it is SO nice to not be pregnant anymore, especially after carrying that 10 pounder! But he is completely 110% worth it and I would do it all again in a heartbeat for him.
To close this incredibly long post, here are some more pictures: