I know I’ve been pretty quiet lately & I’m sorry about that. I’ve been completely & totally exhausted. Actually, if there is a word that describes the step beyond exhausted – when you are so tired you don’t really care about much and all you want to do is think about going to sleep for days and days and not do anything, that would be more accurate. Nate has been traveling for something like 6 out of the past 8 weeks. His last trip – where he was gone for 12 days straight – really did me in. I am usually okay – tired but I manage – when he travels during the week, but it’s a different story when he is away during the weekend. I don’t get the usual break that he provides during the weekend. It’s JUST me with 3 young children. And I have quickly reached that point in pregnancy that is exhausting by itself without factoring other things in, like young children & husbands traveling. I am getting really achy & my pubic bone is separating pretty badly again, which makes it often excruciating to walk. My ab muscles have separated 6+ inches across now and my stomach is really sore.
See this is why I haven’t blogged much in the past couple of weeks – I feel like I just complain. The truth is I am ok. I am really happy that we’ve made it this far and while in some ways, 9 more possible weeks of this seems endless, I know it will pass quickly & Luke will be here before I know it.
I am almost 30 weeks along and Luke is still baking! I had a follow-up ultrasound on Wednesday and things are still okay. The scan went pretty well except Luke wouldn’t cooperate for a 3D picture, so this is all we were able to get – one quick profile shot – he’s still so cute!:
The high risk doctor came into the room and said “Erika, you’ve got a lot of people really worried!” He then went on to explain that he presented my case at a high risk conference and all the doctors were very intrigued as they had never seen this before. (I knew my case was odd, but I didn’t realize it was THAT rare! Trust me to be the odd one!) He said everyone was fascinated with the images of the bleed & how they described the blood flow as “sand art.”
Right now, the bleed is maybe slightly bigger, but not much. The peri said it was hard to get a good measurement this time because the baby is so much bigger. Luke is continuing to grow and is doing very well. He is still measuring a good 1-2 weeks ahead and is now 3 pounds 5 ounces, which is fantastic! Grow, baby, grow! Both the peri & my regular OB were very pleased with this, as they explained that if the bleed was going to cause issues with my placenta and the baby’s growth, it probably would have started to show up by now. Thank You, Jesus!
The peri said he really wants me to get to 30 weeks – which is Sunday! – and then he will feel much happier. As it is, we’ve passed the “danger” window, in that if Luke were born now, he would be in the hospital for awhile but his overall chances of being just fine are very good.
My fluid levels are good, in fact, according to the peri’s notes – they are borderline polyhydramnios, which means I have almost too much fluid. (Yet another risk factor for increase chance of my water breaking early.) But at this point, there’s nothing more to do but continue to wait and see and let little Luke grow.
I talked to both doctors about what we’re supposed to do if my water breaks. I’ll call in of course, but then immediately go to the nearest hospital, where the baby & I will be evaluated and if it’s before 32 weeks, I will be transported to Dartmouth Hitchcock in Lebanon, where I will remain on hospital bedrest. After 32 weeks, I can go to the regular hospital I plan to deliver at. So we are just over 2 weeks out from that point!
I also asked what the plan is if I do make it to full term. The peri said there is no reason why I can’t go to my scheduled c-section date of January 24th (I’ll be 39 weeks 1 day.) Unless Luke or I are having issues, we can go all the way. They are still thinking that’s a big IF at this point, but hopefully we will prove them wrong!
So that’s our little update. I’m not really doing the bedrest thing anymore. It’s been pretty much impossible with Nate’s travels schedule. Both doctors still advise that I avoid “extra activity” but they understand that my situation makes that pretty hard.
Joshua is practically running everywhere now and continues to be a little “Tornado” as Nate & I have nicknamed him, because of how big a mess he makes! He is starting to talk more and loves to say “HI DAD-DY” on Skype now and also says “No” Yes” :”Na-Nite” “Bye” “Em” “dog” and a few more words that I can’t remember right now.
Here he is playing with Abby – he loves that dog and she is so incredibly good with him – with all the kids really!
He even gives her kisses! He won’t give me a kiss, but he’ll kiss the dog…
Nathan is doing very well in school. He’s finished 2nd grade math and we’ve moved onto 3rd grade! (He’s in 2nd grade now!) He loves it and continues to prove to be very smart. He is doing great with phonics and reading and writing and spelling. Most of the men in my life who are very smart and technically/scientifically inclined are not very good at spelling. Nathan is very smart like them, yet he is brilliant at spelling. He has gotten 100% on every single one of his 13 spelling tests so far this year – he amazes me! My dad & Nate both think Nathan has a bit of a photographic memory and I do wonder if that helps him out with this. He can look at a word once and as long as he’s paying attention later, he can spell it easily & correctly.
He is also doing very well with his karate practice. He has a test tomorrow and hopefully he will earn his yellow sash! It is so exciting to see him doing so well and to really begin to get “it” and apply karate principles to the rest of his life.He truly enjoys it and was so upset yesterday when he wasn’t feeling well and had to stay home from practice. (He’s going to a make-up practice today, so he felt a little better once knowing that!)
Emily is also doing well. She misses her daddy lots while he is traveling but overall tries to be my big helper. She will be turning FOUR on Monday. Where does the time go?! We’re celebrating her birthday tomorrow with a small just-us party and her favorite meal – macaroni and cheese and hotdogs (I’ll take simple & easy any day!) And a Little Mermaid birthday cake. She wanted Strawberry Shortcake, but the bakery didn’t offer any designs. They said I could bring something in, but after looking at the prices of some small Strawberry Shortcake figurines ($10 for a set!) I decided it wasn’t worth it and Emily agreed to Little Mermaid (who she also loves) after I promised that NEXT year I would make her a nice cake of her choosing. Because I won’t be pregnant then and will actually feel human! I can’t believe my little girl will be 4 years old – she is growing up so quickly!
So that’s us. Thank you all for all the love & encouraging comments & prayers you’ve sent our way – I appreciate it more than I can say!