There are days when motherhood is one of the most rewarding, fulfilling things you could ever image. When your baby smiles at you or your toddler wraps his dirty little hands around your neck and refuses to let go because Mama is the only one he’ll let tuck him into bed. When your child’s teacher tells you she is one of the sweetest, most polite children she’s ever had in her class, maybe you are doing something right.
But there’s other times when you’re exhausted and nothing seems to go as it should. Your baby is still waking multiple times each night, when all your friends’ babies are sleeping through the night. Your toddler refuses to potty train no matter how many stickers or M&Ms you offer. Your older children fight like cats and dogs and you’ve just gotten a call from your autistic son’s school that he had yet another outburst.
Sometimes the bad days seem to outweigh the good and you wonder if it will ever improve.
It’s something almost all mothers go through at one point or another. Being a mom is 24/7/365 days of the year job and it’s normal to feel overwhelmed sometimes.
As a mother to four kids, I’ve had many days where I’ve doubted what I was doing. But I’ve learned a few ways for finding joy in the middle of the crazy times.
5 Ways to Find Joy:
Set aside your to-do list and do something with your kids.
We are so critical of ourselves and often set impossible expectations that are doomed to fail. If life seems out-of-control, whether it’s a colicky baby or a rebellious teenager, you might need to prioritize your kids and yourself above everything else.
Besides, you know what they say? If you can’t beat ’em, join ’em!
Instead of trying to finish the laundry and make dinner, cuddle your cranky teething toddler and order take-out or make PB&J sandwiches.
Slow down, cancel tonight’s activity, and gather the whole family together for a game night.
Hire a baby sitter for your younger children and take your teen out for ice cream.
Don’t worry about the mess, venture out to see how the kids’ mud pies are working out.
Spending time with your children is never wasted time; in fact, it’s one of the best things you can do!
Take a deep breath and remember that this too will pass.
I used to hate hearing “this too will pass” because we don’t always know when it will, but it is true. Babies and children grow up so quickly, it seems like we blink and they’re bigger. It also means that whatever phase they’re going through won’t last forever.
Sometimes simply remembering that whatever is making you want to pull your hair out – whether it’s a little one who won’t sleep through the night or an older child who keeps getting in trouble at school – will eventually end.
Look at the situation from a different perspective.
Sometimes it’s downright funny how hard we work at a losing battle, like keeping the house cleaned when your 1 year old is a toddler tornado!
Find something to laugh about with your kids.
Have you ever had a tough day, then something happened and you just started laughing? It may not have changed the circumstances, but you probably felt a lot better afterwards. Laughing with your kids is good for everyone!
Watch a YouTube video about funny animals or simply ask the kids to talk about something silly. It won’t be long before you’re all cracking up!
Write a letter to your child.
It doesn’t have to be long, but share something from your heart. You could even write regular letters and save them to give your child on their 18th birthday. It’s something both you and your child will cherish forever!
Huggies is encouraging moms everywhere to write a letter to their baby or child. If you’re an expectant mom, you can do this too! What a special memory to look back at later!
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Here’s a sample of a letter I’m writing to my 5-year-old, Luke:
My dearest Luke,
Where do I even start?! You bring so much joy to me every day. You talk almost non-stop and it’s hard not to laugh at a lot of what you say, even if you’re angry.
When I wouldn’t let you do something the other day, you were frustrated and said “You’re just a bumpy ol’ Mama!” I had to turn my head away because it was the cutest, most hilarious thing and I wanted to laugh so hard! I know that wasn’t the intention you had – you were hoping to offend me and get me to change my mind, but unfortunately for you, you’re the youngest and I’m quite immune to that kind of thing. Fortunately for me, you gave me yet another chuckle and special memory to tuck away.
Luke, even though you hate being called a baby, you will always be my baby. You are so special to me. I love you to the moon and back and then some.
Motherhood truly is incredible.
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