Disclosure: I’m a Sisterhood of Motherhood sponsored partner, but all ideas here are my own.
Dear fellow mom,
I know that we can’t help but watch other moms with their children. It’s just part of who we are as women.
But then we start comparing and feel bad about ourselves. Or we judge. We may not say anything out loud, but we silently judge, often without meaning to.
(I do it. Do you?)
I met my best friend 4 years ago. She had no children at the time and was from big-city LA. I had four children and was from small town New Hampshire; I didn’t see anything in common. Thankfully, I didn’t judge her but I also didn’t make an effort to get to know her in the beginning. If it weren’t for the fact our husbands became friends which inadvertently pushed us together, I would have missed out on so much! Now? She understands me in a way that no one else quite does and she’s the best friend I’ve always longed for.
To think that I could have missed out on such a beautiful friendship!
I am guilty of making snap judgments when I meet other moms. My biggest mistake is not giving another mom a chance because I’m afraid she’ll judge me. I think she won’t like me or she probably already has enough friends and doesn’t need another, especially if it’s me. (Do you ever think that?)
Ironic, isn’t it? Especially considering insecurity is something many of us moms experience and she is quite possibly thinking the same thing!
Just because another mom is different doesn’t mean you have nothing in common with her. Like my now best friend, sometimes those women are the most beautiful gems just waiting for you!
We all have something to offer in this world. It would be a very boring place if the world were full of a million me’s or you’s! We need to respect one another and sometimes that respect can bring more benefits than we could possibly imagine.
Dear friends, I’m pledging to you today to stop judging other moms. I’m going to step out and talk to that mom I’ve hesitated to reach out to. I won’t make quick judgments or assume something that may not be true.
Friendship with other moms is something we can’t afford to miss out on. They’re our sisters, through all our different walks of life. Let’s join them, not stand our distance!
I hope you’ll join me. You never really know who’s there until you give them a chance!
As part of Similac’s Sisterhood of Motherhood team, I’ve shared a series of posts discussing mommy judgment. You can read more here: