May is my favorite time of year but this year, I’ve hardly had time to enjoy it.
I’ve taken on one thing after another and it was too much. This past Thursday, I found myself bawling and feeling like a complete failure because nothing was going right.
Do you ever feel like that?
It had been a really long week. I had hoped to catch up on blogging, but my two little boys caught a bad cold. And you know what that means. No rest or time for mom to work. On top of that, Joshua’s asthma flared up. Even though we managed it and he was fine, his coughing always puts me on edge. Instead of having a relatively calm week like I had hoped, it was anything but that.
My house was messy, laundry was everywhere, we had sandwiches for dinner at least twice, I was behind on blogging, organizing projects were at a standstill, I missed connecting with friends, and I could not get that sinking feeling out of the pit of my stomach – nothing felt right.
Then my best friend called me. After patiently listening to me, she reminded me that I’m not a failure. I just have a lot going on. And what’s more, she offered to take all four kids on Friday so Nate and I could spend some much-needed time together on his day off.
It was exactly what I needed to hear. I can’t do it all. And, my friends, you can’t do it all either. When we try, we wear ourselves thin and we’re no good to anyone. That’s what happened to me this past week.
The Choice is Mine and Yours
I had forgotten something important. I have a choice in the matter. You have a choice too, friend.
Some things aren’t optional, like caring for sick children in the middle of the night or going to work, but there are many things we can change.
That’s why I love the quote from Steve Jobs: “It’s only by saying ‘no’ that you can concentrate on the things that are really important.”
How often do we say yes to just “one more small thing” but the result is more stress? It might be just one more product review for my blog or one more sporting event. But is it worth it?
For me, that applies to both to blogging and my life as a mom. Lately, I’ve been wearing myself thin, doing things for others. It’s hard because I really do want to help – whether it’s my neighbor needing a listening ear or my brother a ride to work. But I need to remember that it’s ok – and sometimes necessary – to say “no, I’m sorry, I can’t. I have to take care of my family now.”
I took a good hard look at our schedule for this month and made some changes.
The yard sale we had planned to do Memorial Day weekend? Canceled. We’re donating the stuff instead. Sure, we may lose out on some money, but time and sanity are worth more.
We said no to the many plans we had for this past weekend. Nate and I took all day Friday to clean the house while Allie watched the kids. It was glorious to get the entire house picked up and cleaned, without little feet running behind undoing everything. On Saturday, we stayed home instead of running off for another event. I caught up on blogging and the kids enjoyed watching movies with Dad and playing together. Instead of running around stressed and coming home to a messy chaotic household, we had a quiet family weekend.
Friends, if you are tired and stressed like me, I hope you will look at your schedule and seriously consider saying “no.” Give yourself and your family a break. You deserve it.
Sending you hugs from one tired mom to another!