In the midst of an overly connected world where everyone shares everything, often with fake perceptions, it’s easy to feel inadequate. It’s discouraging when everyone seems to have it all together when you don’t. And it’s hard to remember that you are enough just the way you are.
Everywhere you look it seems that people are doing amazing things. Especially during the holiday season. There’s elaborate Elf on the Shelf ideas, perfectly decorated Christmas cookies, creative homemade gifts, beautiful wrapping jobs, expensive presents, and more. When everyone seems to have more talent, time, and money than you, how are you enough?
Sure, your friend may decorate the most incredible cakes while you can barely make a box cake. But what you don’t realize is that she stayed up so late to finish that cake, she’s too exhausted to do anything else.
Another friend may be incredibly crafty and can whip up homemade ornaments faster than you could even come up with an idea. But money has been so tight this year, she crafts because it’s a way to earn extra money and make inexpensive homemade gifts.
That mom blogger may make beautiful recipes and share fun activities with her children, but you don’t see her messy house, because there’s simply not enough hours in the day to do everything.
People don’t broadcast their messy houses, projects, or lives all over social media. They share their best side, not what happens behind-the-scenes.
Yes, some people are incredibly talented, and this isn’t to take anything away from them. We just have to remember that no one is good at everything.
Stop focusing on what you’re not doing and think about what you are doing instead.
Your house might be messy, but you spent time with your children reading them stories and kissing them goodnight.
You went to bed early and left dirty dishes in the sink because you know you’ll have more patience with your kids the next day if you do.
You spent an hour talking with your 9 year old who is having friend issues at school. Because that’s more important than eating dinner on time.
You let your six year old go grocery shopping with you, even though it will take you longer. Because you know it’s a way to spend time with him and he’ll love it.
Your Christmas cookies aren’t what you had hoped (they might have even be those Pillsbury cookie dough rolls) but the kids are thrilled and that’s all that matters.
Money is tight this year and even though you’d love to put more presents under the tree, you’re trying to make family memories together because you know that will be more lasting than stuff.
Once you start to realize all that you do, then you can start to accept that you are enough. Just the way you are.
And you can give yourself permission to be you, not someone else or someone else’s idea of you.
When you’re you, you’ll do better at everything in life. You’ll have more confidence, freedom, and joy. You’ll be a happier wife, mom, sister, friend, etc. Because you are enough.
You’re doing good. And you’re doing better than you think.