I bet you didn’t expect to see that. But it looks like a hysterectomy at age 30 is going to be my reality.
I told you about the issues I’ve been having in my “girl talk” article. I went to see my doctor last week and we agreed that we need to do something. It’s not normal or healthy to be having the kind of periods I’ve been having.
It doesn’t appear that my issues are hormone-related, since my cycles are of normal length. It’s a bleeding issue for me. I have Von Willebrand’s, which is a clotting disorder. It’s not a life-altering disease and generally isn’t a big deal, but in this case, it really compounds the issue.
My Options
Normally, my doctor would recommend hormone treatment, such as the pill, or a Mirena IUD. But I’ve already tried those (I had a Mirena IUD twice – one for 3 years and another for 1 year) and I don’t do well with hormones. No go there.
The next possibility is an ablation. That’s what I went in hoping to have done. My doctor is willing to pursue this, but there’s two big negatives standing in the way.
1) Since I’ve had four c-sections, there’s a very high probability that my uterus is thin. If an ablation is done on a thin uterus, there’s a big risk of damaging other organs. They can do extensive ultrasound testing to check for this, but my doctor’s not confident it will work.
2) The other issue? And that’s if we got past issue #1. I’m only 29. (I’ll be 30 in October by the time I have anything done.) Chances are an ablation won’t last very long at all. My doctor said, in her experience, women my age are back in the office within a couple of years of having an ablation, complaining of the same symptoms.
That leaves a hysterectomy.
I would keep my ovaries, so I wouldn’t need hormone therapy or have to be on medication, etc. Essentially, they would remove my uterus and the bleeding issues would stop.
We’re done having kids. We’ve been blessed with four beautiful, healthy children and I am so thankful for them. After the difficult pregnancy I had with Luke, we knew without a doubt that our family was complete. But a hysterectomy is as permanent as it gets, and it sure has made me think.
I’ve been praying. A lot. Nate and I have been praying together. I’ve been researching the subject and I’ve spoken with family and friends who have gone through this. I’m going to do it. Am I nervous? You bet I am. But I have peace that this is the right choice for me.
I can’t continue on like I have. I have a family to care for and for 3 days every month, my life is essentially put on hold. And it affects me the rest of the month because I’m anemic. I have no energy, I’m dizzy, I’ve nearly fainted a couple of times. It’s not healthy. Without medical intervention, I’m looking at another 20 years of this. And it usually gets worse with age. A hysterectomy is radical, but given my unique circumstances, something radical is in order.
I’m going to keep blogging about it. This is immensely personal, but I hope that in sharing this, it will help someone else. And well, it’s me. I share just about everything else here, why not this?
Please keep me in your prayers. I’d really appreciate it.
Read My Complete Hysterectomy Story here:
- Girl Talk in Too Much Detail
- Hysterectomy at Age 30?
- A Surgery Date – Hysterectomy
- I’m Afraid
- Two Days
- Home and Resting
- On the Mend
- My Story: Hysterectomy at Age 29
- Healing
- 7 Weeks Post Hysterectomy
- 6 Months Later…After My Hysterectomy
- 5 Years After a Hysterectomy [2018 Update]
Questions or comments? Feel free to email me at erika at livingwellmom . com (no spaces). I’ve received countless emails from women with similar stories to mine and I love hearing from you!
shabree says
I’m sorry you have to make this decision so young. I can’t give you any words of comfort e ceot you and your family are in mu prayers.
Erika says
Thank you!
Martin Harness says
Hi.my.girlfriend.is going.to have a.radical hysterectomy this wed 27th june 18..her family said they dont.want her to stay at home n.care.for her..nasty i know…we.just dont know where we can.stay while she recovers..after she is discharged…regards martin
Maryann dubbs says
Bless you. You have to do what is BEST for you. In my thoughts and prayers, you and your family.
Erika says
Thanks, Maryann. You are so sweet.
Mara says
Yes! It is a good choice! My mom now 60 had it done a couple of years ago ( she was still menstruating at 50 something) and she had heavy periods like you for most of her life, she was anemic all the time and she had the coldest hands every winter!. Results after the procedure:
Shes the happiest ive ever seen
She has energy that surprises me playing with my kids likeshe was 5
Shes glad GLAD the bleeding is over
And NO MORE ICY HANDS ( she had no idea this would be a happy side effect!)
If you wanna ask her yourself i can give you her email 🙂
Ill have you in my thoughts!
Mara
Erika says
Thanks, Mara! That’s wonderful to hear. I always have freezing hands, wonder if that’s part of it!
Amanda Throckmorton says
We freeze because we bleed ever month and become anemic. Parsley tea rids your body of anemia it is high in Iron A,C,K so it is an option for anyone who are still menstruating or of childbearing years.
Renee says
Oh my gosh, I came across your post only 3 years later..I feel as if I am in a time warp. I have adenomyosis and may have to have a hysterectomy. I was just researching and when I read your post it was like looking in the mirror on paper.. I am in the same boat as you with the same symptoms..
Please, if you can, please let me know how you are post hysterectom. If you went through it, was it the right decision for you.
We are similar in age too
Chantelle says
Ladies, I am 36 y.o. I also have Adenomyosis and now am looking at a hysterectomy leaving the ovaries in tact. My husband and myself have been praying for an answer. Coming across your blog gave me hope that maybe I can do this.
Can you please let me know how you are post op.
Erika says
Email sent, Chantelle. 🙂
Veronica says
I am now 31 and considering a hysterectomy. I would love love love to hear how everything turned out for you (bad and good). Love your blog ❤️.
Rochelle says
Hello,
I too am 36 and diagnosed with adenomyosis. I’m fine having kids and so was seriously considering having both of my tubes removed for pregnancy prevention, but my doctor suggested getting an endometrial ablation to fix the irregular bleeding problem I’ve had for 10 years. I tried pills, Nuva ring, the patch, Mirena, and nexplanon, and nothing had worked. I’ve been off of all birth control for 7-8 months, but I’ve been told that there’s a 40% chance of failure with the ablation for me because I am under 40yrs old. I had a biopsy today and my doctor really pushed a hysterectomy and tube removal, leaving my ovaries intact. I really wasn’t considering it because I feel like I’d be losing my womanhood and all, but now I’m just not sure what to do. However, I need to do something soon for a method of birth control. Condoms are not working well for my husband and I. Can you please tell me if you went through with the hysterectomy and what your results/ side effects were? Thank you so much for sharing.
Janeta Hristova says
Hi Erika! I am 31 and I had hysterectomy one month ago after birth complication. Everything happened so fast…I was hospitalised because of high fever and some hours late I finished without uterus because an infection there 🙁 It was abdominal surgery and the first 2 days in hospital it was fight for life…Thanks God I am alive and home with my three beautiful daughters and amazing husband-without them nothing will be the same…
After everything that happened to me was a complete shock now I tried to learn more what should i expect. I will be more than thankful to share your experience with me!
With love from one mom to other – Janeta
Michele says
I would not tell you horror stories; my mom & grandma been there done that in their 40s, & I have many issues that have made me consider it as well, but I’m holding out (I’m in my 40s so meno looms ahead for me). Anyway, just be aware that ovaries are ‘smart’ & I was told by a natural practitioner that removing the uterus would most likely shut them down & send a woman into meno anyway. Not something to be afraid of if you don’t mind, but just to be aware of… leaving them doesn’t mean they will continue functioning without the other necessary parts (drs are so not helpful with ALL the necessary info sometimes; best to be totally informed). Also, try not to do synthetic hormones if it comes to that – you’re so young! Go for a natural practitioner afterward who can help you with bioidenticals. Meno doesn’t have to be a nightmare from what she tells me!
God bless you!
Erika says
My primary doctor is an osteopath physician, who is very much into “natural remedies,” so that’s definitely something I’ll be looking into.
tiffany says
You will be ok. God never puts you where he cannot protect you. My Mom actually had a full hyst at age 29 is great! You know what is best for yourself and your family, so follow your intuition.
Erika says
Thanks, Tiffany. That’s great to hear.
Freda Mans says
Very sorry to hear. My sister also had a partial hysterectomy at 30, and I saw the change in her. My heart and prayers go out to you and God.
Erika says
Thanks Freda.
Jessica says
Praying!
Erika says
Thank you Jessica!
Doreen L says
I have had a hysterectomy 3 years ago because my periods were just too heavy and I was becoming anemic. It was sucessful and it was the best thing I have ever done. My iron is back to normal and I do not get any of those wicked pms symptoms. No more hurtful cramping, backpain and all the wild and aweful moodswings and irritable moods are all gone. No more sore breasts either. I wish I had done it earlier because I really had suffered for a long time with heaving bleeding and bad – bad pms. My prayers will be with you. Hugs.
Erika says
Doreen, that’s wonderful to hear. Thanks so much for sharing!
Kimberly says
My mom had a total hysterectomy at 32 and never regreted it. She always said she felt so much better. She had dealt with terrible problems since she had been a teen. My sister and I, sadly, have a lot of similar issues. I will be praying for you and your family.
Erika says
Thanks, Kimberly. I’m sorry to hear you’re having issues too. It’s not often easy on us women, is it?
Jeannette Laframboise says
Wow, I am so sorry you are going through this, especially as such a young woman! I am 46 and starting with that lovely thing we call menopause and my periods have been nuts…although certainly not as severe as yours have been. I was a bit shocked to read your request that people don’t tell you their horror stories….If someone has done that to you, I am even more sorry about what you are going through! I will never understand what triggers people to tell these sort of stories when you are without a doubt quite scared enough to begin with.
Clearly it has impacted your life tremendously with anemia, no energy, dizziness and almost fainting. I agree, the choice is clear, that you need to have it done. I can not imagine trying to take care of a home and 4 children while weak from anemia. You must be just exhausted! I don’t have a horror story but a good one…my mother had a hysterectomy at 42 because she was also anemic from having her period 20 days a month. She put it off for so long due to fear because people were telling her those nasty horror stories!! After she recovered from the surgery, she said she felt better than she had in years and she was able to do so much more with her energy restored. If anyone tries to say anything negative to you, shut them down immediately. You don’t need to hear any negative feedback at all. You will be fine, actually better than fine. You will be great and will again have the energy that you need to enjoy your life. Best of luck and I wish you all the best. You will for certain be in my prayers! X0
Erika says
Jeannette, you are so sweet! Thank you for taking the time with me. It’s crazy how people love to tell scary things about someone else. Ironically, I haven’t once heard a negative from someone who’s had a hysterectomy done themselves – it’s all good about how they wish they had done it sooner, their life is better, etc. I really think that will be the case for me too. Thanks again for reading and for being so sweet – it means a lot. So do the prayers! 🙂
Kaitlin Miller says
I hate to here anyone has to make this decision so young. It caught my attention because I had a complete hysterectomy 1 week ago today for endometriosis. By the way, I am 31 so I completely understand. I am also a nurse practitioner so my medical and personal opinions didn’t mesh on this one. After 15 years and 1 perfect daughter I knew it was time. I am recovering well as I am sure you will do. Good luck with everything!
Erika says
Good luck with your recovery, Kaitlin! It seems that we’re in a small group and it’s wonderful to hear from others who have been there. Thanks for stopping by.
Tanya says
Kaitlin
I am suffering with the endometriosis and have been for quiet a few years now.I have had my Fallopian tubes removed along with a lot of tissue.. However a year later I am back to constant bleeding and uncomfortable. They don’t want to give me hormones as I have had issues when I was a teen with a blood clot.. Now they are talking hysterectomy. I also have been battling an unknown sever cough for years that none can figure out. I just feel like my whole insides is covered with this stuff.. Any suggestions or thoughts. Would love to hear.
Sue H. says
Hi Erica,
You’re definitely in my prayers. God has blessed you with beautiful kids so I agree with you that it’s something that needs to be done. I’ve never heard a bad hysterectomy story. I know quite a few friends that had them. You have God on your side so you know everything will work out. I had female issues,and I had pre-cancerous cells removed so I’m ok. I’m going through menopause and it kinda of sucks but it’s part of life. I look at this way if God puts us through it He’ll get us through it. I had 5 1/2 months of chemo last yr and I can honestly say it wasn’t that bad. I know people are so sick but I did surprisingly well. My oncologist was surprised how good I did. I had to get shots to protect my bone marrow and they caused bone pain but I knew God was with me through everything and in the end I knew with every fiber of my being I’d be fine. I just had my 2nd clear PET scan. I know you’re going to be ok. I’ll pray for you daily. Take Care & God Bless!
Erika says
You are so right, Sue! God is with me and He will get me through this.
I’m sorry to hear about your chemo and things, but that’s wonderful to hear you had a good PET scan. Thanks for the prayers. I’ll pray for you too! 🙂
Michy says
Hi Sue I would like to connect with you if possible. I’m glad it sounds like things went so well for you. I am terrified just diagnosed stage 0 cancer but I’m going to have a hysterectomy. I’m so afraid for my life. Anxiety has been getting the best of me! Meeting with the oncologist next week.
Kristen says
I’m sorry the ablation didn’t work out, but I’m glad there’s another solution. I love you sis and I hope everything works out smoothly!
Erika says
Thanks sis! Wanna come up and help watch the kids? Love you too!
Rina says
Just wanted to let you know that my sister had to have the same thing done at the age of 42. She was amazed at the change it made in her life. No more dizzyness, no more lack of energy and no more eight days of heavy bleeding. She ended up in the emergency room several times due to her heavy periods. The last time it happened she had an emergency hysterectomy that night and was happy she did. She always says she would have done it earlier if she had known what a positive difference it made in her life.
I myself went thru menopause very early at age 40 and was so glad that I had inherited the family trait of early menopause. I no longer had to worry about the bleeding, the fainting and the tiredness. I would get so anemic that I would pass out. Menopause was one of the best things that ever happened to me!
I’m sure you will not regret your choice and will see a real difference in your life when you discover all the benefits this procedure will have. You’ll have so much more energy the kids are going to think you’re one of them. Prayers and Hugs!
Erika says
Thank you for sharing, Rina. It’s great to hear that!
momto8blog says
oh my!! good luck with everything! You can count on my prayers..
Erika says
Thank you very much.
Christina says
I am 31 and in the same boat. My doc has me thinking of a hysterectomy as well but she wanted me to find out more info on it to see if its something I think I can live with. I know what the positive side of having it done would be but what could possibly be the down side? I’m also going to be going to a hemoglobin doctor because of how bad my period is and the fact that my body doesn’t absorb iron. I’m tired all the time and some times it feels like my heart is gonna beat right out of my chest, so I can so relate with you.
Erika says
That is exactly what I am trying to find out – what are the possible negatives? It’s easy for a doctor to say there’s nothing when they haven’t had it personally, but I want to hear from other women who have had it done at a young age.
My heart races sometimes too and I get short of breath. It’s not fun.
Maybe we can stay in touch, Christina. It sounds like we have a lot in common. ((HUGS))
Kecia says
I am keeping you in my prayers, Erika. I hope that whatever you and your doctor choose to do is the right thing for you and will heal you of your bleeding issues! *HUGS*
Erika says
Thanks, Kecia!
Stephanie H says
Well It sounds like you have the family you wanted 4 children. And Heavy periods are no fun. I use to have very very heavy periods. But I was lucky as I got older mine got a little lighter. Right now at 34 I am quit possible going to need a Hysterectomy with removal of the ovaries, not for heavy bleeding but because I my cycle suddenly stopped in march. They have tried multiple times to get me to have a period but my body isn’t cooperating. At least you will get to keep your ovaries so your not facing early menopause. Like you I knew years ago that I would most likely have to have a hysterectomy earlier than normal. My mom had ovarian cancer at 40 and all of my female family members on my mom’s side of the family that have been checked for ovarian cancer have had ovarian cancer. Even my sister has already had one ovary removed. At the time she was pregnant and so the other ovary had to remain. She is pregnant again and if she has to have a C-section they will do a hysterectomy and remover her last ovary at that time. Other wise she will have the same surgery next year. Good luck and make sure you have a hematologist check you before surgery to make sure your clotting okay
Erika says
Good luck to you too, Stephanie. It’s not an easy road. And yes, I’m already scheduling an appointment with my hematologist. They have to give me a special clotting blood product before surgery and we need to consult on that.
Thanks for sharing. Thinking of you too! ((HUGS))
Melissa Lawler says
No horror stories here. I had a hysterectomy at 35. It was honestly the best thing! I had been bleeding 28-30 days each month and had a hemoglobin of 3 when I finally agreed to it. I kept my one ovary (the other had to be removed 5 years before). I did not start menopause until 3 years ago (I will be 50 this year). 47 was also the age my mother started menopause so this was expected. Once my recovery was complete I felt so much better! You will too.
One question that everyone had for me was how was sex. It was better! So if you have worries about that don’t. It will be fine.
Erika says
Melissa, that’s awesome to hear! Thanks so much for sharing!
Karen Glatt says
You are in my prayers, and I believe you are making the right choice! I will also pray for you while having this operation!
Erika says
Thank you so much, Karen!
Sarah says
Wishing you the best 🙂 When I was 18-19, I had a lot of major bleeding issues (21 day period, yikes). They tested me three or four times for Von Willebrand’s. Some tests would come back looking peculiar and others wouldn’t, so they didn’t really know what to tell me. I had a bleeding time test and my blood does take longer to clot than the average person’s, but all of the hormonal tests were okay. I was never diagnosed with Von Willebrand’s, but I honestly do wonder considering the shady results of some of my tests and the fact that my bleeding is a bit different from the norm. (I’ve donated blood three times, so this actually worries me. I’d love to donate again, but I’m afraid to). For me, the pill has worked so far. I’ve been on it for four or five years now. That being said, I hate that I have to rely on it so heavily. At this point in my life I’m not ready to have children so I’m happy with it, but I will want to go off of it within the next few years and I do not want to have to use it into my 30s or 40s since the side effects become more serious.
Thank you for sharing your experiences. I know this decision must be so difficult, but having experienced some things you may have leading up to here, I think it’s a brave and important one for your health and ultimate happiness. Wishing you the best 🙂
Erika says
Thanks so much for stopping by and sharing, Sarah. It does sound like maybe you have Von Willebrands. For me, receiving a “diagnosis” didn’t mean a whole lot because there’s not a medication or something they can give to “cure” it. It’s just mainly something to be aware of, in case there was an issue – like this. At least you know something may be a little “off,” although I’m sorry you may have it too! I have Type I, which is the mildest form. I’m glad the pill is working for you. Best of luck to you and thanks again for taking the time to read and share! ((HUGS))
tonygreene113 says
Prayers for you and your family.
Jenea W says
I was 26 when I had my hysterectomy. It was medical emergency. It is a very hard thing to go through. I have 3 beautiful children that I am so thankful for. I know its not an easy decision to make. My thoughts and prayers are with you. I truly wish you all best. .
Jenea @ Books Live Forever
Jeneaw0716 on twitter
Erika says
Thanks, Jenea. I’m sorry you had to go through that. That must have been so scary. Have you had any side effects? That’s one thing I’m a little nervous about!
Susi says
Erika, I hope all goes well. I’m sure it’s not an easy choice to make. I was faced with the possibility of this because of cervical issues (carcinoma in situ). In the end it was not necessary, but believe me, as difficult as it was, I would have done it… I know, how important it is to be there for the kids and to be able to take care of them. No horror stories from me.
Erika says
Thanks Susi. I’m glad you didn’t have to go through with it, but it sounds like you had some tough times. I appreciate you sharing. ((HUGS))
Cynthia Miller says
I am not going to tell you horror stories. I had my hysterectomy at age 35 due to a large tumor (pre-cancerous). Mine is a success story. I kept my ovaries therefore, I did not have any pre-menopausal symptoms until about a year ago, I am now at the age that this is a possible. After your hysterectomy, for a year or more, at the time that you would have ovulated or had your cycle you will still “feel” pains and have cycle like symptoms, cravings, bloating, etc….But that won’t last forever. With proper diet, supplements and exercise they can fade quickly, mine did. Good luck and I wish you all the best!!
Erika says
That’s great to know, Cynthia! that’s exactly what I was wondering! I’m sorry you had to go through that, it sounds like you had some scary times there. I’m glad everything turned out ok. Did you use any specific supplements that you helped and you can recommend for me? Thank you so much for stopping by and sharing!
Nicole - Mama to 4 Blessings says
Erika = I am so sorry you are going thru this. I had no idea. I will keep you in my prayers. Please pray that God confirms to you that this is what He wants you to do. XOXO
Erika says
Thank you, Nicole. I am really feeling a great peace about this. It’s wonderful that He is so near.
WorkingMom says
You’re in my prayers. No horror stories. Only good. In fact, my mom had her hysterectomy at 29 for medical reasons very similar to yours. In my heart of hearts, reading your posts, I believe this is the path you were meant to travel. You are at peace with your decision. You have a beautiful family. It’s time to move onto the next phase, healthy and able to function EVERY day of the month. Wishing you all the best!
Erika says
Thank you so much!
gina says
Thinking of you and thank you for sharing this!
Gina
Erika says
Thank you, Gina!
SusanD1408 crochet addict says
Sorry you are having to go through so much! Thank you for sharing your experiences as it will hopefully help a lot of women. My mum had to have a hysterectomy as she had cancer but the alternative was a lot worse. As long as you follow the doctors orders you can recover well! The one thing my mum would pass on is don’t try and be your usual mum self during the recovery time. When the doctor says do nothing in the first week do nothing. My mum said it was weird at first as there is so much space your stomach feels like it’s bouncing about in the space. My mum followed the guidelines and is doing well. We heard from a number of people who didn’t and years on they are still suffering with problems. I hope everything works out for the best!
Sue
x
Erika says
Thanks for sharing, Sue! I think that resting and doing “nothing” while recovery will be the hardest part for me – I am always running around with something and with 4 kids, it won’t be easy. But knowing how important it is will hopefully help me relax. I appreciate the info – it’s great to know!
The Mom says
I had a hysterectomy at the age of 34 and I was thrilled! We were done have children and there was no need for “that” to happen for another 20 years! I love, love, love not having to deal with periods any more. I also had my ovaries left in, so I don’t have to take hormones either. It’s the best of both worlds! And it makes intimacy with my husband so much more fun because we don’t have to worry about birth control!
Erika says
I’m so glad to hear that! That’s what I’m hoping for, but I keep thinking maybe there’s more to it that I don’t know about. But the more I read, the more I feel that it’s really going to be ok.
Thanks “The Mom!” 🙂
Christa Krebs says
Well, I feel your pain and understand any confusion or fears you may have right now. I was only 28 years old when my dr informed me that I would need to have a hysterectomy performed. I was terrified about what that would mean for my body and my future. But after having suffered from severe pain for yearswith the cause unknown, I was grateful that the procedure finally gave me answers that the drs never had been able to provide previously. Turned out I had severe endometriosis that had grown all the way up onto my internal organs and the drs didn’t understand how I had managed to have five healthy children. They said it was a wonder I had been able to get pregnant at all! But my story didn’t end there, unfortunately. Having the hysterectomy actually had some very nice side effects, no monthly cycle to worry about, no cramps before and during my cycle. But because my underlying problems were hormone related (endometriosis is triggered by estrogen production), I continued to have bouts of severe pain. So at the age of 29, I had to undergo another surgery, an ovumectomy, to have my ovaries removed. And to be honest, that’s when things became more difficult. Having the procedure done pretty much threw my body into instant menopause. Which actually wasn’t nearly as horrible as I had expected, I didn’t have major mood swings or anything, but the hot flashes… Ugh, they sucked! It has been four years since then, and most of my menopausal symptoms have disappeared, but looking back, I don’t regret having the actual hysterectomy at all! I was done having children, and decided there really was no reason to struggle through other options when I had no need for my uterus anymore and it served no further purpose for me. So my advice would be, as long as you are certain you will not want any future children, just have the hysterectomy done. Since your problem isn’t hormonal, they shouldn’t need to remove your ovaries. But if thats not the case and they need to take your ovaries, I would be more hesitant to suggest this option, because the side effects are definitely more severe. But as far as the hysterectomy goes, I found that once I recovered from the surgery, every side effect I experience we’re definitely positive ones! Feel free to email me if you have questions or just want to vent, I totally get it!
Erika says
Thanks so much for sharing, Christa! I’m sorry you had so much pain, that’s awful. And that they had to go back in again. But it’s wonderful to hear that you are doing better now.
We are 100% certain we are done having children (my last pregnancy was very difficult and even if we did want to have more – which we don’t – it really wouldn’t be safe for me anyways.) I am so happy that you took the time to tell me about your story – it really helps so much! ((HUGS)) And I may just take you up on that offer for email. 🙂
Wendy Pruitt says
Will keep you in my prayers. I had to make the same decision 6 years ago when I was just 28 and my twins were both still very young. It has ended up being the best decision! I was having other issues than you but so grateful now that I am no longer living in pain and can focus on my famliy and living a fufilling life for God. Just get lots of support lined up for the first few weeks after recovery and the Lord will carry you through.
Erika says
Thank you so much, Wendy! That is so encouraging to hear!
Amanda Throckmorton says
You don’t have to deal with the pain no longer but I would suggest Parsley tea as it rids the body of toxins and is a great helper with cramps for women. I’ve tried over the counter pain meds those do not work for cramps. Take 4Tsp of fresh cut or dry Parsley to 4 cups of water in a sauce pan boil than put aside off burner for 10 minutes sift leaves through the sifter liquids go into the cup. If a doctor says hysterectomy please get a second opinion.
Erika says
Pain is not my issue, Amanda. Did you read what I wrote?
Sarah says
I am so sorry you are going through this. Praying for you all.
Erika says
Thank you, Sarah.
Eileen says
I have not had issues with this until I was about 45 and pre menopausal. Lucky me had 6 kids and I also was ready for a hysterectomy but the day of surgery had an unusual 102 fever. It was cancelled and never resheduled. Lucky me, things resolved and I went into meno on my own. But, hearing your story makes me think of two of my daughters who bleed so heavily and get so weak and sometimes have been anemic. One is 25 and planning on getting married soon. I sure hope she is able to have children and maybe make this decision too someday. It is so hard to watch the girls be so miserable and weak during this time. I do know what you are saying and I hope this will remedy all things and you will be the healthy mom and wife you have always wanted to be EVERY day!
Jennifer Hines says
Erika, at 31, I am in the very same boat. We prayed long and hard about it and I have come to the conclusion that I cannot go on the way that I do (I do not get any break from my cycle, I bleed all month long, going on three years now). It was either buy stock in the Kotex corporation and build my own personal wealth or go to more drastic measures.
Am awaiting my latest ultrasound before the final knoll is made.
Best of luck and thank you for sharing your experience.
Jenn
Michelle says
Hello,
Thank you for sharing your story. I just had a partial hysterctomy with my appendix removed 4 days ago, I am 33 years old.
I had the same symptoms gone through all the hormones and 3 lapryscopic surgeries. My periods were
unmanageable. They were ruining moments in my life I was tired of missing. Well I did it. Recovery has been
interesting but with an awesome husband you can do it. Good luck to you. When I was having a tough time after
the surgery just think of how great it will be with noire periods. Celebrate!!!!
Prayers to you.
Michelle
Erika says
Thanks for sharing your story, Michelle. I hope you’ve recovered well! I had my surgery back in September and am completely back to normal, minus the horrible periods every month. Definitely the best decision I could have made and I have no regrets!
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Megan McLeod says
I hope everything goes well for you. I am twenty five and I am having a hysterectomy this month. I have one child, we wanted more but that is not possible now.. My one child is a miracle. I have Endometriosis and Adenomyosis with fibroid tumors.. It is a tough decision but feeling exhausted 24/7 and all the pain takes away from the enjoyment of life. Good luck with everything!
Erika says
Hi Megan, I had my hysterectomy 6 months ago and am doing fantastic! It was the best decision. If you want to email me and chat, feel free – it’s musingsfromasahm at gmail dot com.
Good luck!
Loura says
I think you must be my long-lost twin! I am also a SAHM, former homeschooler, Christian, mom of four, all C-sections, and I also love writing, baking, photography, and hosting. Too weird.
I may be in the same boat (it remains to be seen) as you in regards to a hysterectomy at 29. I’ll be 30 in July, but I’ve been in excruciating pain the past few days. I’ve had a few tests but won’t talk to the Dr. for another week and a half. We’re happy with our family size, but it sounds like such a scary thing. And I was hoping to be surgery-free for a while.
I’m so glad I found your blog. I have definitely been encouraged and blessed by your words.
Loura 🙂
courtney says
Im 28 and actually want a hysterectomy. …I had a cystectomy done back in february and a benign tumor the size of a cantelope was removed from my right ovary. Since then I have had cramps that completely take over my body, can’t move or even utter a word because the pain is so intense (and I have a very high pain tolerance) not even prescription strength meds take the edge off the pain. Had an ultrasound done on Wednesday to see what the issue is and will know the results on Monday….I will practically be begging my doctor to do a full hysterectomy.
Karen says
Awww, Courtney, I sure hope you find some kind of relief soon. That sounds absolutely horrible. I cannot imagine what you are going thru and being only 28 at that. Do you have children yet? Married? Even so, it sounds like you have made your decision. My god, I just cannot imagine what you go thru everyday……I want to wish you good luck with your doctors and hope they are able to what you want Courtney !!!!!!! Good luck dear !!!!!!!!
courtney says
I am married and have 2 amazing boys (3&4). Met with my dr and he thinks it might be endometriosis. ..so he has me on birth control round the clock so I won’t have a period and therefore hopefully stop the pain. In theory this should help…..if not there will be further treatments (lupron shots) and if all else fails he will do a partial hysterectomy.
Karen says
I’m in between some of you~~I’m 53 & have been having absolute horrible cycles~~July so far has been the worst month. Three cycles in one month, gross !!!! One is bad enough but three? Yesterday 8/22, I had a Hysteroscopy done by my Ob/Gyn to see if they could find the reason behind the excessive bleeding & everything came out normal. The did not have to do the D&C because there was nothing there to dust & clean. So now we’re at that decision of going forward with a Hysterectomy or letting my body go thru it’s course. I have been reading all the comments (all wonderful BTW), and very encouraging. I’m thinking I would like to discuss this over with my hubby before I make a final decision. Not thrilled about another surgery as I am a breast cancer survivor, 17 months now and my last surgery was May 31st, 2013. However, I will weigh all the possibilities & think very hard about this important decision. Thank you for all the important info you all gave me in your comments. I really appreciate it all.
Erica Ramsey says
Hi Erika, Love Your Name I Am Also Erica! I Am 31 And Have Been Dealing With Heavy Periods Ever Since My Son Was Born In 2001. He Is Now 12 and I’m Still Dealing With Heavy cycles. I Will Bleed For Weeks To Months At A Time. I Would So Tired With No Energy, Cold, Anemic, Hard To Focu And Very Moody. Have In The Past Had A Polyp Removed, D&C, Biopsies Which Were Negative Thank God and The MirenA. My Dr. Has Insisted That I Too Need To Have A Hysterectomy. When He First Told Me This I Wanted Nothing To Do With It! I’m 31 Only Have One Child And You Want Me To Have A Hysterectomy?!?! My Husband Had A Vasectomy Years Prior To Us Meeting Each Other We Tried Last Year The Invitro Process And It Worked But After 3 Wks I Miscarried It Was Devasting! The Hardest Thing I Have Ever Experienced! We Put So Much Time, PatiencE, Emotion And money Into This For It Not To Work! After Several Weeka Of Trying To Decide What The Best Option Is For Me I Have Decided To Have The Hysterectomy. It’s Not What I Want To Do But I Am ThinKing Of My Health Now. I Am Having My Surgery Oct 9Th. I Am Doing The Robotic Laproscopic Hysterectomy Which Will Be AQuicker recovery
Jacqueline says
Hi Erika, I’m 36 & will be scheduled to have a hysterectomy due to HSIL CIN 3 diagnoses on my Cervix. I’m so scared but my kids are still 9 yrs old & 5 yrs old. Reading your post makes me strong inside. God bless you & your family.
Erika says
Thanks for reading, Jacqueline. I’ll be praying for you! Hugs! If you need to chat, feel free to email me anytime – musingssahm at gmail.com
white pearl says
Hui Erika
I have mailed you, Plzz do reply to me…
Need your advice…
Thnx
white pearl says
Hi,
How are you doing??
My problem is Im suffering from heavy periods, my first 2/3 days are very heavy..
My age is 29 I’m having one son.
I have discussed my problem to 2 gynecologists but they don’t have any solution except for tablets…
Even after having tablets transmine my flow goes on the other day…
I have suggested them I want to have hysterectomy but both of them said this is not a solution you will regret soon…
Even I said after having one more baby carry out my c-section and on delivery remove the uterus too…
I want to know how’s you feeling now???
Should I go for hysterectomy…
As You told u have removed your uterus not ovaries and cervix..
Do you get periods??
Because my doctor said I should for full hysterectomy then only periods won’t come…
I feel dizzy, my hands go num and I sweat and have breathing problem some times..
Plzz do reply…
julie says
I read your blog. I am a little older. Not by much. 35. I only have one child but I have my tubes tied as it was a very difficult pregnancy and I don’t want to risk my health for my daughter. I have the same issues with awfull periods. I also have a high risk of developing ovarian cancer as I lost my mother to it. I have also had cervical changes requiring a cold knife cone biopsy. Now I have cysts on my cervix. I am miserable. I spend much of the month bleeding. I feel that my reproductive organs are having a negative impact on my life. I have been thinking about a hysterectomy. I have an apt this month to discuss my options. I am scared to have it done (as my older sister had to) and she doesn’t seem to think I should do it. I have had ablation and it helped for 3 months and the bleeding returned! I hope you had a positive experience as I am leaning in the same direction.
Erika says
Hugs, Julie. It’s a tough decision. Did your sister have a full hysterectomy including removal of her ovaries? I only had a partial (they only took my uterus and left my cervix and ovaries.) I’d recommend you check out the Hystersisters website http://www.hystersisters.com/ – they have tons of information and active forums that I found very helpful when I made my decision.
Hang in there!
Kim Campbell says
just came across this post and I’m so glad I did. Just decided yesterday with the advice of my OB-GYN to proceed with a hysterectomy at 36 years old. Thank you for sharing your story!
Dessica says
Hi Erika, I don’t know how I just found your site, but I’m so thankful I did. I go in tomorrow for my hysterectomy. I’m only 32 (33 next month) and the mother to one amazing daughter. How have things been for you post-hysterectomy? I’m praying that I’ll finally have some relief. I’ve had pain for as long as I can remember and unfortunately, it’s only gotten worse since my c-section in 2011. I had an ablation last year and honestly, I really don’t think it was worth it. Two weeks after the procedure I knew I would be scheduling a hysterectomy within the year. Sure enough…ablation was last July 1st and I scheduled my surgery date June 9th. Thanks for having the courage to share your experience.
Jana Warner says
If it’s not too late already, please, please try to find a gynecologist who understands bio-identical hormone treatment, and ask to try a course of progesterone cream treatment. Please try this before surgery!! I had an un-necessary hysterectomy at 36, and it totally wrecked my health. In the course of my struggles, I finally found a doctor who could help mitigate my symptoms. In the course of all that, I met a number of his other patients with the same symptoms as yours and mine who were spared the hassle of needless hysterectomy and were well and happy with the simple and healthful treatment of progesterone cream applied three weeks out of four…you are off the week of your period. Bio-identical progesterone is a prescription…not snake oil. Don’t let anyone tell you that the pharmaceutical counterfeit, Progestin, is the same thing. It’s not!! You should be able to find a gynecologist who is up on bio-identical hormone treatment through your local compounding pharmacy, or just ask around until you find one. You won’t regret at least trying.
Yvonne says
Hi Erika to have the same symptoms as you im 27 years old.i was diagnosed with von williebrand disease February this year and I’m experiencing heavy menstural bleeding I’m using like 4-6 baby diappers per day. I have blood transfusions 4x a year. I have a 1 daughter and I want to have 1more and stop thinking of the full removal hysterectomy. I also stop working because of having severe anemia with my heavy menstural bleeding. I can’t take this any more I want to work for the family and want to take care of my husband and daughter I always feel weak, my husband is having a hard time financially I don’t know how to help. That’s why I’m really thinking of doing a hysterectomy. Can you tell me stories after your surgery I would like to know more about what’s going to happen
Shannon Mitchell says
I am 36 and about to under go a hysterectomy.. I’m so scared! I have a very active sex life, I’m afraid of body changes, menopause, and my vaginal not feeling the same to my husband.. HELp!
Holly says
Hello, Im having the same issues as you and I’ve been considering a hysterectomy for some time now, I would like to know know how you’ve recovered and any effects it’s had on your life.
All these positive stories are great to hear it’s so good that you are all doing so well after your hysterectomies thank God.
Holly says
Hello, I am having the same issues and ive been considering a hysterectomy for some time now, how has it been for you and have you had any issues with regards to your concerns in your post.
Amaan says
Hello, I am 30 and going through the same that you went through. I hope everything worked out for you and your family. If you can, please share with me what you went through after the hysterectomy? I would really appreciate it. I just saw my doctor today and a hysterectomy is probably going to be the solution to my problems. I sacred of what happens after, well being, how you deal with daily life, sex life, mood swings etc, etc….
Thank you for sharing your story.
Erika says
Hi Amaan, I wrote several other blog posts documenting my journey and how things went. You can see all the links in the post, but here is the most recent update I wrote which was 5 years after my surgery – https://livingwellmom.com/5-years-after-my-hysterectomy/
Best of luck to you!